It would be so much easier if my brain did not crave things like salty chips or sweet cookies but the reality is, it does. Maybe it's a combination of many years of being bombarded with advertising to make me think I want it or maybe it's as simple as it satisfies something in my head. I didn't take enough psychology in college to answer that. I do know if it's around me (like it is now as I write; you wouldn't believe what is at the end of the table at my sister's house) I'm less likely to eat well.
In my older years, I have realized that if I allow myself a little rather than denying myself entirely, I can balance the cravings with the reality of what I think I should eat. When I bake cookies, for example, I often freeze over half of them. When I need something sweet, it's defrosted in a matter of minutes. At least the treat is homemade; that I can rationalize.
One definitive difference when I compare myself now with myself of 10 years ago, is that I really don't eat a lot of processed food any more. I worry less about the calories and more about whether or not it's "real" food. Now, if you see me at In n' Out (the only fast food hamburger restaurant I will go to), all bets are off. Otherwise, most of what we eat is just real food. I have stopped buying fat-free and sugar-free foods and still can maintain my weight. The old me would not have believed that but the new me understands why.
What I deem as healthy seems very obvious but clearly it's not the same for everyone. At some point in my life, I started to really look at labels in the grocery store. That's when I started putting things back on the shelf. If it had ingredients I couldn't pronounce, additives, preservatives, high-fructose corn syrup or trans fats, as hard as it might have been, I put it back. I did this for my own health as much as I did it for the health of my family. Try to do this at a conventional supermarket. You may walk out with much less in your cart.
My best advice is to keep things simple. Our bodies need basic nutrients: protein, carbs, fat, water, vitamins and minerals. Although it's not a nutrient, fiber is something we should get as a result of food that is nutrient dense like vegetables, fruits and whole grains.
When I teach cooking classes, I explain that my take on healthy eating has evolved over the past 8 years. I feel like now I get it. I may not always practice what I preach, but I think I have a good handle on what is healthy.
So as you start the new year, instead of hopping on a new diet or food trend, be honest with yourself and decide "what is healthy" for you.
Happy New Year and of course, healthy eating to you and your family!
ps I just want to remind you that I am neither a dietitian nor a doctor. This is just how I see it. Take this advice with a grain of (sea) salt!